To flirt back, smile at him in return. You might even take it as an invitation to start up a conversation. Say something like, “Hey, how’s your day going?”
Show him that you like him back by answering his questions and asking some of your own. You might say, “My weekend was pretty fun! I caught a movie with some friends. What were you up to?”
He might want to talk about movies, TV, or video games. For example, he might come up to you at a party and ask, “Have you ever seen Dark Crystal?” Say something like, “I haven’t! Do you recommend it?” to flirt back. He may text you the link to a news story on the latest in politics with a message like, “Just read this and thought of you. Would love to know your thoughts 😊” If you like him back, read the article and text him some of your takeaways.
If he just went on a 10-minute spiel about the best rock drummers of the 20th century, respond with something like, “Wow, that’s fascinating. Do you play the drums, too?”
If you like him, make sure you always listen to him, too. Practice active listening strategies, like nodding as he speaks, leaning in yourself, and asking follow-up questions. If he just told you about his Magic: The Gathering obsession, you might ask, “How did you first get into playing?”
He may say something like, “I love that sweater. You’ve always got the best outfits 😍” or “You’ve got a really nice smile. " It takes a lot of guts for nerdy guys to compliment you, so if you like him back, say something nice to him in return. You might try, “You’ve got such a cute laugh” or “I love that shirt. You look so handsome!”
Tell him you enjoy spending time with him so that he keeps coming back. You might say something like, “Being with you makes work bearable” or “I love walking and talking with you. Thanks for always walking me home. "
Show him that you like this attention by reciprocating it. Greet him by giving him a hug or even a kiss on the cheek if you’re feeling bold. He may be looking for a sign that it’s okay to go ahead and kiss you.
Reply to his messages with flirty texts and DMs of your own. If he gets responses every time, that’ll likely be the encouragement he needs to start flirting with you in person.
You might try liking his posts, too, to be a little playful. If you’re getting impatient to actually talk to him, reply to his story or DM him after he likes one of your posts. You might say something like, “Hey, what’re you up to tonight? 🙂”
If you like him back, say yes! You might say something like, “That sounds so fun. Can’t wait!” If he’s been flirting with you but hasn’t asked you out yet, don’t fret. He might be afraid you’ll say no. Go ahead and ask him out so that the two of you can get to know each other better. You might try, “I’ve got an extra ticket to a Weezer concert next weekend. Wanna come?”
