People usually start out by seeing each other casually. Then, they may agree to see each other exclusively without defining the relationship (though some relationships remain open). Once they realize they can trust each other and feel comfortable, they may decide to define their relationship and discuss their expectations in a committed relationship.
It’s important to let the person you’re seeing know if you’re sleeping with other people or want to wait a while before getting more serious. You might say, “I love spending time with you, but I should let you know that I’m seeing other people right now, too” or “I’m not really looking for anything serious at the moment, but I’m having a great time getting to know you. "
You see each other on a regular basis (once to a few times a week) You’re both only seeing each other You’ve met each other’s friends You haven’t defined the relationship
Do I see a future with them? Do I trust them? Do I feel comfortable being myself around them? Do they make me feel respected and appreciated?
If you’re in a long-distance arrangement, bring up the subject over a video call (or at least over a phone call).
If you’re not sure how to put your feelings into words, try writing them down in a journal or talking over how you feel with a trusted friend.
“I really like spending time with you, and I can see a future with you. How do you feel about that?” “I’ve enjoyed getting to know you and would love to take things to the next level. How would you feel about seeing each other more seriously?”
If you’re looking for different things, take some time to process before you decide what to do next. You might say, “Thanks for being honest with me. I totally understand, but I need some time to think things over. " If you’d really like to be in a committed relationship and this person isn’t ready, it might be best to walk away. It’s understandable to be disappointed or hurt, but remember that there are others out there who are looking for a committed relationship just like you.
