If you or your partner is going through something (loss of a loved one, depression, high stress levels, etc. ), sex might temporarily take a backseat. Rest assured that once you’re both feeling normal again, your sex life will likely improve. If sex is on the backburner right now, focus on building intimacy in other ways. Cuddle with each other, have deep conversations, and stay connected as a couple.
Sex has other, individual health benefits, too. Studies have shown that sex can lower your blood pressure, relieve pain, and even help you sleep.
While the end of the honeymoon period can sound a little sad, it just means that you and your partner are truly close and connected. Instead of discovering new things about each other, you can now grow and evolve together as a couple.
Certain medications for mental health issues can also lower your libido, leading to a lowered desire for sex.
If you’ve tried working through your problems together and aren’t making much headway, consider seeing a couple’s counselor. They can give you an unbiased, third-party perspective as well as tools to repair your relationship.
If you’re in a sexless marriage and you’re not happy with it, open the line of communication by talking with your partner. Use “I” statements to start a discussion without making your partner feel attacked. If you’ve tried talking to your partner about sex and it’s not productive, consider seeing a couple’s counselor. Someone who specializes in relationships will help you navigate discussions about sex.
