The important part of a new relationship is getting to know each other in person. Texting is fine, but you’ll probably make a deeper, more lasting connection if you save the deep talks for your face to face meetups.
Not sure how often your guy wants to text? Just ask! Try something like, “Do you like it when I text you ever day?” or, “Would you prefer that I texted or called you?”
“Hey! Just thinking about you. I had so much fun last night 😘” “Good morning sleepy head! Hope you had sweet dreams 😊” “Wanna grab dinner later?🍽️ My treat. ”
If you find that you’re always the first one to reach out, talk to him about it. It’s not necessarily a sign that he doesn’t like you—he might just not like texting in general.
Try to keep his schedule in mind, though. If he’s at school or work, he probably won’t be able to respond very quickly at all. Some guys play hard to get by delaying their texts. However, if he’s steadily responding to all of your texts, he’s probably interested in you.
On the flip side, some guys will “breadcrumb” you just to keep you hooked. Breadcrumbing is when someone puts in just enough effort to keep you interested without actually putting in the effort to make a relationship work. Your guy might be doing this if he texts you something sweet one day, and then drops off the face of the earth for a week.
“Are you close with your family?” “Who’s your best friend?” “What’s your favorite way to relax?”
There’s no set rule for how often you should go on dates together, but most couples like to see each other at least 2 to 3 times per week.
If you know he’s super busy with work or school right now, don’t sweat it if he’s taking a while to respond. Wait until his busy day is over before you try reaching out again.
“Hey, you there?” “Just checking in 🙂 We still on for tonight?” “Text me back when you get the chance 😘”
“I wanted to talk to you about how often we text. I know you don’t love texting that much, but it would mean a lot to me if we could check in with each other at least once a day. How does that sound?” “I know you don’t mean anything by it, but when you read my messages and don’t respond, it hurts my feelings a little bit. If you’re too busy to text, would you mind just letting me know?”
