You might say, “Hey thanks for the great night! I really had a lot of fun :)” or, “That was a blast. We should do it again some time!” People get self-conscious about this, and a lot of 21+ folks grew up hearing adages about waiting a certain amount of time before texting. That’s kind of outdated advice these days.
You can try playing hard to get by waiting a little bit after getting their text to reply, but it’s also totally fine to reply right away! That will signal that you’re just as interested as they are.
“Hey Alex, I hope you’re doing well. I was wondering if you’d be interested in grabbing some lunch this weekend if you’re free?” “Nicole! I had a great time the other day. Want to get a drink at some point next week?”
A simple, “Hey! How are you doing?” is a perfectly safe and laid-back way to go. You could ask something open-ended, like, “How was your day?” or, “What was the highlight of your day?” to give them something to respond to.
The etiquette surrounding texting after a first date used to be very conservative and concrete. These days, people treat texting like an extension of a regular conversation, so don’t be super self-conscious here.
The other benefit here is that it gives you time to think about what you’re going to say. Even just 30-60 seconds of meditation on each text may really help you figure out the perfect thing to say!
Your date might just be really bad at texting. If your first date went well, it’s possible that they’re just one of those people who don’t check their texts, or forget to respond.
“I just saw something that reminded me of you!” “How are you doing? I’ve been crazy busy at work. What have you been up to?” “Hey, remember when you were telling me about that band? I think they’re on tour and coming to our city next month. You want to go?”
You can send one follow-up text the next day or so, but don’t send more than that.
If they felt a little cold or detached on the first date as well, they probably aren’t into it. However, if you feel like the date went well and they’re just awful at texting afterwards, try calling them! Maybe they’re just uniquely awful at texting.
“I had a really long day. My boss is giving me the hardest time with this new project I’m on. How was your day?” “What was the best part of your day today?” You can also test the waters to see where they’re at by texting a basic, “Hey!”
A single date does not need to be a big deal. If they’re texting you frequently and you’re just not into it, let them know and keep it moving. You’re not locked into anything after a single date.
Don’t skip the text message and go straight to the phone call if you just had one date with this person. Most folks these days won’t pick up if it has only been one date. [14] X Expert Source John KeeganDating Coach Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
“So, should we do that again next week? We already grabbed dinner, how about a movie?” “Hey, I had an awesome time last Friday and I’ve loved chatting this week. Any interest in meeting up for round two next Saturday?” “Hi! No pressure or anything, but want to hang out tomorrow?”
