Fortunately, you can make simple choices to build your self-confidence. Just as there are many ways to strengthen your body, there are ways you can increase your resolve by setting small goals, making healthier choices, nurturing your spirit, and finding support. Taking these steps will give you the power to:
Get to know and accept yourself. Break free of self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior patterns. Expand your knowledge, skills, and experiences. Become physically, mentally, and spiritually healthier. Deepen interpersonal relationships.
Spend Time With Yourself
Self-reflection is essential to understanding who you are and why you think the way you do. Set aside time to assess your strengths, weaknesses, and core values, and write down your insights. Dissect the challenges that threaten your self-confidence so that you can face them one step at a time.
Adopt or Maintain a Spiritual Practice
There is a positive correlation between nurturing your spiritual self—your sense of “purpose, innerness, interconnection, and transcendence”—and life satisfaction and self-esteem. Rituals such as yoga, meditation, prayer, and chanting help you calm your mind, see yourself and your situation more clearly, and connect you to your higher self. Maintaining a daily spiritual exercise also gives you practice in consistency, which can increase your self-confidence.
Use Positive Self-Talk
Psychologists say that self-talk plays a key role in our actions, emotional reactions, and goal progression. Much of our self-talk—positive and negative—happens without our really thinking about it.
Cultivate a Healthy Lifestyle
A 2017 study suggests that physical activity and healthy eating help improve self-esteem and self-efficacy. Wholesome foods and exercise flood your body with nutrients and endorphins (chemicals that manage pain and relieve stress) that can elevate your mood. These lifestyle behaviors help make you more physically and mentally fit to tackle life’s tasks.
“I will learn” instead of “I’ll never understand”“I will try” instead of “It’s too hard for me”“I know how to do it better next time” instead of “I’m such a failure”
Cut Out Self-Comparison
Comparing yourself to others, particularly on social media, can diminish your self-esteem and self-confidence, fostering anxiety and depression. It’s okay to acknowledge that you aren’t perfect, but keep in mind that nobody else is either.
Set Small Goals
Accomplishing goals increases your self-efficacy. Start by setting attainable but challenging goals, and give yourself an appropriate reward for reaching your goal. Examples include:
Goal: I will exercise for 15 minutes. Reward: Making a new workout playlist for the next time you exercise. Goal: I will get up early tomorrow. Reward: Trying out a new coffee spot. Goal: Making a new, healthy recipe. Reward: Enjoying what you made with a friend.
Seek Uplifting Relationships
The late motivational speaker Jim Rohn said that we are the average of our five closest acquaintances. Connect with people who will encourage and inspire you to improve in the areas you feel weak. Set boundaries with those who bring you down.
Consider Professional Help
Sometimes, we have deep-seated mental blocks that are hard to overcome on our own. A licensed therapist or counselor can teach you strategies to help you enhance your self-efficacy. They may also be able to help you uncover underlying issues such as generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) that could be limiting your self-confidence.
Summary
Your self-confidence may seem naturally strong or weak in certain circumstances. However, you can grow in countless ways with easy, positive changes. Build your confidence muscles by developing a stronger mind, body, and spirit. Techniques that can help with this include spending time with yourself, adopting a spiritual practice, positive self-talk, not comparing yourself to others, setting small goals, and seeking uplifting relationships.
A Word From Verywell
Your level of self-confidence can vary in different situations and can ebb and flow over time. However, if you’re experiencing persistent self-confidence issues, reach out to your doctor or a mental health professional right away. Together, you can come up with a plan to face this challenge. Remember: You’ve got this.
