This will be particularly helpful if you have been mandated to give this person a compliment. In order to make your compliment stand out and be more unique, highlight something you’ve recently learned about their skill set or something you’ve read recently and apply that to the compliment.
You might even want to practice with a friend. When practicing, be aware of your non-verbal cues. Are you showing contempt, uncertainty, or judgment on your face? If so, try to improve that when delivering the compliment.
Say something like “Jess, I know we have had our differences, but I wanted to let you know that I admired what you did in class the other day when you stood up for Arnold. That took some courage and I respect that. ” You might also say something like “So, as you know we’re both in Communications class together and Mr. Chavis gave us this compliments assignment. So I wanted to let you know that I think you dress really well and that you’re smart. ”
You might say something like “I wanted to let you know that I think what you did was awesome because I really care about the issue of bullying. Even though we don’t like each other, I think it’s important to show others that you can be cordial to people even if you don’t get along. ”
You can say something like “Andy, I see that my compliment is not being received well. I don’t regret telling you, but I do need to go at this time since you are attacking me. Have a good day. ”
