“Everyone moves at different speeds. " “I’m allowed to take my time. " “I don’t have to be fast in order to be hardworking, kind, capable, or an overall good human being. " “I’m doing my best, and that’s what counts. " “If people get mad at me because I can’t do more than my best, that is their problem, not mine. I’m not obligated to meet their unreasonable expectations. "
“I have dyspraxia, which means that motor skills are a challenge for me. As a result, I’m a slow mover. Please be patient with me, and remember I’m doing my best. " “I have a chronic illness. On my good days, I can walk normally, but on my bad days, I’m going to be slow. You can help by being patient and accommodating. " “I’m not very good at stairs. Please be willing to wait for me. If you’re in a rush, tell me, and we’ll take the elevator. "
Many wheelchair users are able to take a step or two. It’s just that those steps may be painful or difficult, or that the person has a limited amount of steps they can take per day. If you use a wheelchair, but can technically walk sometimes, that doesn’t make you a “faker. "
“I’m disabled, and I’m really struggling with my coat buttons. Could you please help me take this off?” “I’m not sure I can carry this box up the stairs. Would you please help me figure something out?” “I’m not good at seatbelts. Could you buckle me in?” “I think I’m stuck. Would you give me a hand, please?”
Run errands during quieter times of the day. Avoid rush hour and crowded times. Find comfortable places that are accommodating, and have a slower pace. For example, a cafe that caters to slower dining might be more your speed, or an entertainment place that is doesn’t expect you to move quickly may be more fun. Bring a loved one who understands you, and is able to explain your condition to other people if this can be hard for you. Always bring your cell phone, with the numbers of loved ones who you can call for reassurance if you’re having a rough time.
It’s good for non-disabled people to see disabled people out and about in public. It reminds them to be considerate and understanding of others’ differences.
