If it’s a house party, go for smart casual. If it’s a formal event, black tie is appropriate. A dark suit for men and dress for women. Black is always a good look and will help you to blend in. [1] X Research source If it’s a fancy dress party, you’ll want to figure out the theme and try to wear an acceptable costume.
Ask other guests about the event, particularly those standing around and chatting outside the venue. Pay attention to the decor as this can give you vital clues. Are there any signs giving information about the event? Or balloons and a birthday cake?
Try the back door, which may not be manned by security or the person with the guest list. You may have to go through the kitchen, so make sure you are polite to the kitchen staff but don’t linger, walk through quickly and with purpose.
Ask a friend if you can borrow their badge. If you already know someone attending, this is a great way to get in. Even better, make a new friend and they may give you theirs! Ask someone who is leaving to give you their badge. Don’t begin by asking for their badge, engage them in conversation first. Perhaps start by asking if they enjoyed the event. Eventually, work your way up to asking if they would give you their badge, you can say you misplaced your own. [5] X Research source Check the trash can. Often as people leave events they throw away their badge. Look in the floor, and, if you are really keen, the trash can, for any discarded badges.
If you see a group of interesting looking people, go up to them and introduce yourself. Don’t be obnoxious and interrupt. Wait for the most opportune moment in the conversation to say your piece.
Express your gratitude, remark on the excellent party the host has put on and tell them how much you are enjoying yourself. Remember, if the host tells you to leave, then it’s time to leave.
