While it seems cliche, confidence really is the best way to meet women. [1] X Expert Source Hebert AguilarProfessional Dancer & Choreographer Expert Interview. 25 October 2021. Simply put yourself next to her and start talking – you’re already ahead of 90% of the other men. If you’re having trouble making conversation, just go out onto the dance floor and start dancing, usually with friends. Again, this just shows the kind of confidence that will make it easier to find women. You will get rejected sometimes – but it is not personal. [2] X Expert Source Hebert AguilarProfessional Dancer & Choreographer Expert Interview. 25 October 2021. A girl may have a boyfriend, want to be with her friends, or just not feel great. Rejection is inevitable, so move on and find someone else. [3] X Research source
If you’re uncomfortable dancing, just sway back and forth with the rhythm of the drums. Lift each arm individually with the beat and keep your joints loose and relaxed. You’ll blend right in. If a woman is with a group of friends, dodges eye contact, or seems busy with another man, just move on. Plenty of people go to clubs to find someone to dance with, so don’t waste everyone’s time chasing a girl who doesn’t want the attention.
Nod your head towards the dance floor. Ask “care for a dance?” Offer her your hand to her and playfully pull her towards the floor. Move in closer while you dance. [7] X Research source
Never try and juggle multiple “options” throughout the night. Chances are good it will backfire, and you’ll justifiably look like a jerk. [8] X Research source
Dancing is all about feel, not showing off. As long as you stay on the beat (follow the drums if you get lost) you’ll be fine. Repetition while dancing is fine! Don’t feel like you need to change things up every 30 seconds. [9] X Research source
Keep your arms up, snapping, clapping, or pumping them to the beat as well. Just don’t leave them glued to your side. Rotate and swing your shoulders with the beat to get your upper body involved. On the second and fourth step, try landing with your heel out in front of you instead of your toe, or placing your tow behind your planted foot. As you get better, trying moving forward, backward, or around as you do the two-step. [10] X Research source
Removing one hand and raising it in the air, or clasping on of her hands. Bending your knees together and going down low, especially if the song is calming down before a drop. Spinning her around and trying face to face, especially if there is good chemistry between you both.
Remember to move to the drum beat. Rhythm is easy, just follow the “boom-clap, boom-clap” found in the drum section of 99% of club songs. [11] X Research source
Bob or turn your head to the beat. Rotate one of your knees back and forth. Turn and twist your shoulders back and forth, bending down with the beat. Pivot or twist on one toe. Extend your arms out in front of you, crossing and uncrossing them.
Step one foot to the side, then bring your other foot to meet it. Then move back to the other side. This quick “two-step” looks natural no matter what is playing. Do not try and change or adapt your tempo to fit her if you feel off; this just makes it harder for both of you to find time together. Just listen to the music and sync your body up with that – she will do the same without your help. [13] X Research source
If you are a good dancer, and you feel confident, go ahead and take the lead. Don’t pinch or otherwise make childish grabs at her. You’ll destroy whatever chemistry there was between the two of you. Play it safe and follow her lead until you’re perfectly clear on what she wants. [15] X Research source
If you’re grinding, dancing back-to-front and up close, you can start with one hand high on her waist, at about the top of her hipbone. If you’re leading her to the dance floor, you can hold her hand or lightly place yours on in the middle of her back. If you’re dancing face to face, you likely won’t start with a lot of physical contact. But grabbing her hand and taking her for a quick, playful spin is a great way to bridge the gap.
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