Sharp objects Cords that could become tangled around the child A set of stairs that could be fallen down A hot stove or fireplace
Move dangerous objects to a high shelf or secure the cupboard Stand in front of sharp corners Physically move to another room - the child may follow you to keep your attention
Take deep breaths Remind yourself that you can resolve this safety and effectively Feel the contrast between your calm demeanor and the child’s out-of-control one Let go of planning how you will resolve this Let go of thinking about discipline or consequences Let go of worrying about how much time it is taking or may take
Sit near them and speak soft reassuring words. Let them destroy something that you are okay with (ex: break all their Legos apart, rip all the sheets off their bed, stomp grapes on the sidewalk, etc. ) Tell them you would like to help them but can’t do so until they calm down.
Ask the child what they need to do to make it right. Make sure they clean up any thing they destroyed or damaged. Have them apologize to anyone who may have been hurt or scared by their actions.
Have the child brainstorm what might work better to get what they want. Come up with more ways to express their anger that are safe and appropriate.
