If your friend continually turns the conversation back to themselves, politely tell them you don’t want to talk about that right now. You don’t have to tell them why. You might say, “Very cool, Jacob! Hey, have you seen the trailer for that new superhero movie yet? It looks pretty awesome. What kinds of movies do you like?”

Never lie about your accomplishments in an attempt to best them. Even if they don’t find out, you will likely feel bad for lying. [3] X Research source

Even if your friend knows they have a problem, they might feel too embarrassed to change their behavior. Knowing that other people struggle with it, too, can push them towards improvement. Do not brag on purpose just to self-correct yourself. This is passive-aggressive. [5] X Research source Your friend may not necessarily pick up on the hint, but they may pick up on your anger. Instead, become self-aware of your own bragging habits.

If your friend only brags on occasion, try your best to just be understanding. Everyone wants to brag from time to time. We all want to share our accomplishments and our life’s high points with friends and family. If your friend is emphasizing the point that they have achieved or received something that you clearly cannot have or do, that is not okay. In that case, have an appropriate conversation to tell your friend how you feel.

If your friend is fishing for praise, you do not have to compliment them. Treat them kindly, but put attention on something else besides their actions. You might say, for example, “I appreciate how much effort you put into the group project, Becca. We couldn’t have done it without your persistence. "

Make an effort to tell your friend how much you care, and compliment them on little things. You could tell your friend, for example, “Dakota, I really loved spending time with you today. You’re great to talk with. " Once they know that you are not impressed by their bragging, they may feel uncomfortable bragging around you in the future.

Creating this safe space depends on your attitude. If you approach them compassionately, this will show and your friend will feel comfortable. If you feel angry around them, they will sense this, too, and become more nervous.

Avoid seeming confrontational.
Instead of putting the blame on them (e.
g.
“You brag too much!”), put the emphasis on your feelings (e. g.
“I feel hurt when you one-up what I say. “)[9] X Research source

Say something like, “Hey, Henry, can we talk? I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, but I felt hurt when you started talking about your dog after I told you my dog just died. It made me feel like you aren’t paying attention to me. I feel like I listen to you when we talk. Can you please listen to me?” Another approach is to start a conversation with your friend about how they feel when they are around others who are bragging. For example, say, “How did you feel the other day when all Jack could talk about the other night was his new red car. ” If your friend says, “frustrated,” or “annoyed,” talk to them about how you have had similar experiences with them and provide examples.

You and your friend might just be going through a rough patch. Has your friend always been the one-upping type? If not, they might be struggling in their personal life. Postpone ending the friendship until you know what’s going on. Face the tough questions. How do you feel when you’re around them? Does this person bring out your best, or your worst? Do you care about them, and do they care about you?

Let your friend know. Tell them the purpose and duration of your break, and answer any questions they have. If you ignore them for seemingly no reason, they may feel confused. [11] X Research source Say something like, “Kelsie, I appreciate our friendship but think we might need some space. I need time to cool down and think about our friendship. Could we take a break from each other for a few days? If you have questions, I’d be happy to answer them. "

Don’t ignore the person. You don’t have to engage with them, but they still deserve basic respect. [12] X Research source Tell them your decision. If you avoid them with seemingly no reason, they may feel hurt. Keep their feelings in mind, and avoid insulting them. You might say, “Robin, I’ve appreciated your friendship but think it might be best if we spend less time together. When you brag, I feel like you don’t care about me. I know we talked about this in the past, but I don’t think either of us changed after we talked. You are a great person, but I think we might not work well together. I think it would be a good idea if we spend less time around each other. Is that alright?”

If your old friend persistently contacts you, do not respond more than necessary. Be polite, but avoid falling into old habits. Do not react if they insult you in-person or through social media. Instead, let a close friend know, and tell a trusted adult if you are underage. They can help you deal with the situation. Your friend might realize how their behavior affects others and apologize later. It’s up to you whether you want to rekindle the relationship: don’t let them pressure you into it if you’re not ready.