She leans toward you, smiles, and touches your arm while you’re talking. She often compliments you, especially how you look. She talks about being able single or wanting to date in front of you. She often tries to spend time with you one-on-one. She plays with her hair or tries to get you to notice her.
If she mentions a boyfriend or that she’s not interested in dating, she’s likely not interested in you in that way, even if her body language is flirtatious.
Is vague in making plans with you, or calls or texts you at the last minute. Never reaches out to make plans with you first. Does not share a lot about herself with you. Takes a long time to get back to your texts. Talks about her ex-boyfriend a lot in front of you. Only spends time with you when you pay for things, like nice dinners or going to the movies.
If you talk over text, online, through a phone call, it may be less awkward or uncomfortable. Sometimes it’s harder to be clear about how you feel over text, so keep your language clear, simple, and direct. You can say, “I am attracted to you and I thought you might be too, because you wanted me to take you to the movies, complimented me a lot, and said you wanted to hang out with me more. I feel confused lately though. Are you interested in dating or not?” If you meet in person, you’ll have an easier time reading her face and body language. Talking in-person will sometimes give you a more honest reaction. [9] X Research source However, sometimes girls try to be too nice and indirect when they’re not interested. Keep in mind you may not even be able to get her to meet you in person if she’s being flaky or not responding to you. [10] X Research source Still, be clear and direct. You can say, “I want to date you, how do you feel about that?”
You can say, “I want to be with you, and I hope you feel the same, but I know you might need some time to think about it. How about we get back together next week to see how you feel?” If she seems ambivalent or isn’t being direct with you, take some time for yourself to think about if you really want to be with her. Usually ambivalence is a “no,” but she’s just being too polite to say so directly. [12] X Research source
Spend some time apart. Unfollow her on social media. You’ll feel better if you don’t have to see everything about her all the time, especially if she’s flirting with other people. Call her out when she flirts with you. Avoid answering her phone calls or texts right away. You don’t have to be so convenient to her. Spend time with her in safer group settings.
Venting. Talk it out with your best guy friends, your parents, or someone else you trust. Focusing on your other interests and friends. Meeting new girls and new people.
