If the boy is harassing you, physically hurting you in any way (e. g. pulling your hair, throwing things at you), or making you feel badly about yourself, tell a trusted adult immediately. If no adult is available and you feel in danger, call the police. Peer-on-peer harassment that is related to your race or disability is illegal. Sexual harassment is also against the law. You should discuss these forms of harassment with a teacher immediately.
Do I want to be his friend? If so, think about ways to interact with him more positively. Is he mean to other people around me? If he is mean to others or annoys them intentionally, he might be a bully. In this case, talking to your teacher is a good idea. Has your relationship changed? This is often the case with little brothers. Did you use to spend time with him? Have you stopped now? Could he be feeling left out?
For example, in dealing with a pesky boy, you could say: “Hi, Dylan. Why are you always throwing paper balls at me? It distracts me from doing my homework. Please stop. If you need something from me, please ask me nicely. " If there is a boy who wants to be your friend but you don’t like him, you could say: “Hi, William. I appreciate the fact that you want to hang out with me. I think you are a nice person but our interests don’t match well. Please stop calling my house every day. " If the boy is your brother, he likely looks up to you. You and he will have a relationship the rest of your lives. Schedule time to hang out on a specific day. Ask him, though, to respect your need for time alone or with your friends. By showing him you care, he will less likely annoy you at other times. You could say, “Hi, Logan. I love you very much. I need some time alone, though. Can we plan to take a bike ride on Saturday morning?” You do not have to play or be friends with anyone. You are free to choose your friends and others must respect that.
