Suppose someone says something condescending to you, such as “Well, if I were you, I’d just settle on a career and move on with my life. ” You might be tempted to respond with something like “You’re wrong! And stay out of my life. ” Instead, try saying something more productive, like “I understand you see it that way. Let me explain why it’s more complicated than that…”
For instance, if you have a relationship where you feel like you owe a debt to the other person, the pressure of the debt may cause the feelings of condescension. Settle the debt, or be open with the other person about how you feel.
“Could you help me understand?” “What do you think we should do?” “Maybe you’re the best person for this job. ”
You might also ask a supervisor to attend the meeting to serve as a mediator.
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Invite your coworker to explain what he or she was thinking or feeling when saying something you perceived as condescending. Be courteous by saying something like “Why don’t you tell me about your perspective?”
