“What do you do for a living?” “Didn’t I hear you just started a new job? How is that going?” “I’ve been looking for a good movie or TV show to watch, do you have any recommendations?” “A friend is coming in to town next weekend, where should I take them?” Excuse yourself to go the bathroom and start a new conversation when you get back.
Adding in other exaggerated points to the story in a playful manner. Showing an over-the-top response to their story. A common and unoffensive approach is to joking way to demand proof in the form of pictures, usually with the phrase, “pictures or it didn’t happen. ”
You will have something else to focus on during the conversation which could reduce your frustration. It may help you gather information to bring up when speaking to them about the tendency to exaggerate later. It may help them realize that you are paying close attention and deter them from further embellishments.
Ask them questions about their lives that you are genuinely interested in, and show your interest. Come straight out and tell them, “I think you are a really interesting person, because. . . ”
“Listen, I want to have a real one-on-one conversation with you about something that may be difficult, but has really been bothering me. ” “The stories you have been telling lately, they seem to be getting more and more extreme. What’s going on?” “You know I really like you, right? I feel like lately you’re coming up with these crazy stories to impress someone. You don’t need to, you’re awesome just the way you are!” “So I was listening to you tell that story earlier, and I couldn’t help but notice some things didn’t add up. ” Mention any inconsistencies in their story you discovered.
Go to activities where there are fewer opportunities for telling stories, like the movies. Limit the time you spend with them to a certain amount such as 15 minutes or 30 minutes. Learn to say no, if they ask you spend time with them alone. Limit spending time with them to spending time in groups.
“I can’t believe that happened to you. ” “That’s such an interesting story. ” “Really? Wow. ” “That’s unbelievable. ”
