Can this be nerve-wracking? Sure. But sometimes, great things take a little extra effort, and if you want to date a super sweet shy guy, this might be what it takes to get there!
Looking for an introvert-approved date idea? A movie, a home-cooked dinner, or a walk through the park would all probably make him absolutely swoon.
Try asking him big about his passions or his dreams: “If you could accomplish one thing in your life, what would you want it to be?” For instance, you might ask him about something he loves so that he feels comfortable: “You’re so good at guitar. Why do you think you love it so much?” Chatting through his childhood is another easy way to get deep: “What’s your happiest memory from childhood?”
That way, when you two meet up again in person, you’ll have laid more groundwork in a way that makes him feel super comfortable.
Let him know that you appreciate it when he opens up: “Wow, thank you so much for sharing that with me. I know it’s hard for you, and I think you’re amazing. " Tell him you love how much he values actions over words: “Thanks for taking out the trash for me! I love how big you are on acts of service. "
When you struggle with this, try to remember signs that he’s shown you that he does like you. He might always try to be around you or blush when you talk to him; why would he do that if he weren’t into you?
For instance, you might say something like: “Wow, that makes so much sense. I definitely understand why you’d feel that way, Mohammed. "
For instance, try saying something sweet, like: “You know, I think you’re just the best. I hope I tell you that enough. "
If you find yourself feeling super tempted to say something that breaks the silence, remind yourself that he doesn’t need you to. Enjoy being with a guy who doesn’t need small talk all the time, just your company.
When he needs solo time, focus on your passions and other relationships. Go for a jog, do some journaling, or ask your best friend to go get a coffee.
For instance, instead of inviting him to a big NYE bash with everyone you know, start him off with a nice, relaxing dinner with your parents. Or, instead of planning multiple introductions in a week, space them out for him. If he meets your parents one week, let him wait a couple weeks before meeting pals.
For instance, you might say something like: “Did you guys know that Jason is an amazing artist? You should tell them more about that. " Or, if you know he’s familiar with a topic, help him speak up: “Oh actually, Mateo knows a ton about chess. If you like it, you should ask him for tips!”
For instance, you might say something like: “I was chatting with Sarah yesterday, and she was talking about how much fun you were the other night. . . " Or, you could let him know that he has nothing to worry about: “I know you’re worried about that last joke, but I talked to CeCe about it. She said it was funny!”
